Curriculum...

 

Building Blocks

for Newlyweds






Adjusting to Married Life



Materialism

-    There is always the urge to look at what others have and to want something better.  It seems this urge is especially strong when first married. 

-    Competition - Are you in a competition to see who has the nicer "things"?

-    Store up treasures in Heaven.         (Matthew 6:19-24)


Budgeting and Six Principles of Money Management

-    Budgeting is not to confine you, but to free you financially!

-    Divisions of Income.

-    Six basic principles to live by.


Major Purchase – House

-    To be wise stewards of the money God has entrusted to us, we need to understand the “in’s and out’s” of purchasing a home.

-    For most people this will be the biggest purchase in their lives.


Major Purchase – Car

-    To be wise stewards of the money God has entrusted to us, we need to understand this area. 

-    For most people this will be the second biggest purchase in their lives.

-    Areas covered include negotiating a price and financing your new car.


Resolving Conflicts

-    People react differently to problems and conflicts.  Do you have a short fuse with firecrackers along the way, or a long fuse with a load of dynamite at the end!!

-    You must get past the emotion or anger, and get to the root of the problem!!!

-    The best time to work on an issue, is when it’s not an issue!


Are You Leaving or Cleaving

-    If you aren’t cleaving to each other, you are leaving because you are falling further apart from each other.

-    Have you left your parents?

-    In relation to your spouse.

-    In relation to God.


Roles and Responsibilities

-    How do you decide who does what around the house?

-    The husband is to be the leader and the lover.

-    What does submission for the wife really mean?


The Five Love Languages

-    You are most familiar with the "language" you understand best in your marriage.

-    This will help you to discover which of these 5 categories best meets the needs of emotional love for your spouse.

-    When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full, they feel secure in your love.


How To Build a Spiritual Home and Have a Christ Centered Marriage   

-    You can't have a Christ centered marriage without knowing Christ.

-    Are you a supercharged Christian and rely on Sundays to be your only fill up time? 

-    You must make time for a DAILY WALK!!! 


Physical Intimacy and Oneness

-    A husband and wife don't become "experts" in this area just by saying, "I do".

-    Many times sexual problems in marriage aren't sexual problems. 

-    Do you have any warning lights or signs in your marriage that could be affecting your physical relationship? 


How to Get Along with Your In-laws

-    This is one of the trickiest areas to handle when you are first married.  When you marry your spouse, you in essence are marrying their family!

-    If you want to diffuse a situation, respond with a soft answer.  If you respond with harsh words, then anger will follow.  Read Proverbs 15:1

-    How do you decide where to go for each holiday?


Keys to Effective Communication

-    Open and positive communication is essential for a healthy marriage!

-    Are you talking and not listening?

-    Are you really comprehending what your spouse is saying?

-    How do you answer your wife when she asks you, “Do you like this dress?” 


How to Keep the Romance in Your Marriage

-    The biggest reason romance leaves the marriage is that you live together, but things become commonplace and you don't communicate.

-    Without romance, marriage becomes routine and commonplace with no excitement or change! 

-    The little things we do are a way of showing our spouse they are the most important person in the world to us!     

 

Curriculum Cost – Teacher’s Kits are $29 and Workbooks are $10

 

Both sets of curriculum have a teacher’s manual for the teacher, and workbooks available for each couple to use.  Each teacher’s kit includes a portfolio that holds the teacher’s manual, one teacher’s manual and one CD.  The CD has helps and ideas for promoting and starting your class as well as PowerPoint presentations for each lesson.  The teacher’s manual is loaded with demonstrations, illustrations, visual aids and a suggestion of songs, etc…to be used for the lessons.

 


To order a series, contact Joe at julveling@mobaptist.org or call 573-636-0400 Ext. 220.


Building Blocks

for a Successful Marriage




Are You Walkin’ the Walk or Talkin’ the Talk?  (Part 1)

Our spiritual relationship and our marriage relationship go hand in hand.  If your spiritual life is suffering, your marriage will be also, and vice versa.  Most marriage problems are not marriage problems, they are spiritual problems!


Are You Walkin’ the Walk or Talkin’ the Talk?  (Part 2)

The two main ways you grow in the Lord is through quality time spent in the Word, and quality time communicating with Him through prayer.  How can you expect God to bless your marriage when you don’t even know Him and spend time with Him daily?


He Who Dies With the Most Toys DOESN’T Win!

Have you ever heard this expression, “The only difference between men and boys is the size and the price of their toys!”  No matter how many toys or things we get, we can’t take them with us when we die.  I’ve heard this one too, “Have you ever seen a U-Haul behind a hearse?”


For Richer or Poorer…Are You Taking it to the Bank?

Do you remember the part of your marriage vow that said, “For richer or poorer”?  I know you remember the richer part, but the poorer was part of it too.  Ha,ha   Are you leaving anything in the bank, or are you just surviving?  Budgeting is not to confine you, but to free you financially.


How to Have a Good Fight and Bury the Hatchet  (Part 1)

We all have conflicts in our marriages, but you must learn how to “bury the hatchet” and stop throwing it!  Most people are good at throwing it, but they haven’t figured out how to bury it once and for all.


How to Have a Good Fight and Bury the Hatchet  (Part 2)

Eight specific ways to successfully resolve conflicts are given in this lesson.


The Cleave Equation:  1+1=1

If you aren’t cleaving to each other, you are leaving because you are falling further apart from each other.  If 1+1=2 in your relationship, then this lesson is for you.  The Cleave Equation is not only for your spouse but for God too.


Who Wears the Pants in Your House?

What does God say about the husband and wife’s roles?  Is His order different than yours?  Is the husband supposed to be the leader, and that’s it?  What does submission for the wife really mean?  This lesson will take some of the ‘mystery’ out of this subject.


The Five Love Languages

Do you speak another language besides English?  Which language do you speak the best?  It’s the same in your marriage.  You are most familiar with the "language" you understand best in your marriage.  Discovering the proper language will help you to best meet the need of emotional love for your spouse.  Which language do you speak?


Who is Your Brick Mason?

When you’re building a house, how do you decide where to lay the first stone?  (Measure, align, adjust)  That first stone or brick determines the direction of the entire structure.  What happens if it’s crooked?  Who is the brick mason in your marriage?  Who is your cornerstone? 


Sex – To Have or Not To Have?

Do you have any warning lights or signs in your marriage that could be affecting your physical relationship?  Many times sexual problems in marriage aren't sexual problems. 


In-Laws or Out-Laws?

You picture outlaws as the bad guys riding in on horses with bandanas covering their faces, wearing black hats and guns!  What do outlaws do?  They shoot each other down.  Do you have a shootout with your in-laws frequently?  If you’re the parents, do come in “guns-a-blazing” on your children?


Communication – Are We on the Same Frequency?

Have you been on the cordless phone and had another conversation overlap yours?  Have you ever heard a conversation through your baby monitor?   Two conversations are going on, and it’s frustrating to hear anything at all. 


I believe this is the most important element of a marriage when it comes to general marriage principles.  If you’re communicating, you’re talking through money issues, sex problems, in-law issues, conflicts and everything else. 


How to Keep the Romance Flame on “High”

When you think about keeping romance in your marriage, what comes to mind?  (Gifts, flowers, candle light dinners, bed & breakfast inns, etc…)  I've heard about couples that stay together for the kids only, and then wake up one day wondering who the person is they are sleeping beside.